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The Pitfalls of Offering Kindness for External Validation & Neediness

When we extend kindness to others, we experience the fullest state of connection. However, it is important to understand why we offer this kindness in the first place. When we give something with the intention of receiving something in return, such as approval or validation, we create an expectation for appreciation. This can lead to feelings of anger and resentment when that appreciation is not received.

The Law of Attraction states that we attract what we focus on. When we have a vibration of neediness, we attract needy people into our lives. If we offer kindness to someone with an ulterior motive, we may be reflecting our own neediness back to ourselves.

When we offer kindness to someone, it is because they are in need and we want to help connect them to source energy. However, it is important to understand that the reason they were in need in the first place was because they were not hooked to the stream. We cannot expect appreciation from someone who is not equipped to offer it.

It is also important to understand that we activate different vibrational potentials in people with our attention. If we predominantly think of someone as needy and offer kindness with that in mind, we are connecting to their vibration of neediness. However, if we consistently focus on positive aspects of that person, our relationship with them will reflect the dominant vibration.

If we want to have pleasant, non-needy people in our lives, we should focus on their positive qualities. To feel appreciated, we should connect with our own source energy and offer kindness from a place of alignment. Our true power lies in allowing what we want in and choosing to focus on positive aspects of others. By closing the gap between where we are and what we want, we can improve our relationships and our own vibrational offering.

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